Due to the increase in screen time and social isolation during the pandemic, many kids are underperforming in school. Parents have been under enormous pressure, but still desperately want the best for their kids. Some children need additional attention and assistance, especially during the pandemic. But sometimes they are too shy to ask for help. That's why parents should always be on the lookout, especially concerning school tasks. The following seven signs will help you to notice problems, if they arise, and let you know how to support your child so they can get back on track.
Your Child Doesn't Want to Talk About School
Usually, people love to share good experiences with others. This statement is particularly true for kids who are excited about the new things they do at school. However, if your child keeps avoiding a conversation about lessons, they are probably experiencing difficulties. Ask them if you can help with school assignments. Don't worry if you don’t know all the answers. Children just need to know that you care and will go through this journey with them.
Don't take it personally when your calm and friendly teenager becomes aggressive. An aggressive attitude could be just a silent cry for help. In this case, react with thoughtfulness. It's not the best idea to ask them directly what happened. Try to find an appropriate moment for a conversation when they are calmer, and show that you will support them no matter what the issue is. When they feel your support, your child will more readily tell you why they are frustrated.
They Need Your Presence
At school, we learn how to make our own decisions. So, it could be strange when your child starts to ask for help with every minor issue. It could be a sign that you have to pay more attention to their educational problems. Maybe it has something to do with the tough final test, exam, or big science project? Or, perhaps they just need help on one particular subject.
Your Child Looks Depressed
Depressive moods or distancing could also be the signals of underachievement at school. Sadness, constant tiredness, and lack of attention can be the signs that a child is struggling with school assignments and that they need your help. Unfortunately, very often parents don't notice changes in their children's behavior. They think that lack of energy and enthusiasm could be just temporary fatigue—meanwhile, pupils lacking help with studying start to lose their motivation and become more miserable. Parents must pay attention to these emotions and ask for professional help if it's needed.
Issues with Memorizing New Words
If you notice that your son or daughter has trouble remembering new things, have them take some tests. On the internet, you can find plenty of cognitive tests for different ages. That's how you can check their logical skills, processing speed, and memory. Look for tests that include games, that way your child won't be against having some fun. The test's results will give you an understanding of the strengths and weaknesses of your child. It will help you assist them but not be overreactive, because you will help only if they need it.
Problems with Speech
For well-balanced development, children should be able to communicate without any obstacles. That's why it's essential to be a fluent speaker and avoid unnecessary pauses. If your child can't answer a simple question, has trouble with choosing the words or pronouncing new definitions, it's probably high time to take care of their speaking skills. It doesn't mean you need to sign your child for public speaking classes. Sometimes, it's enough to talk more often about how your child spent their day and ask them to communicate more specific details.
Messy Handwriting or Problems with Spelling
Some children have problems writing without making a mess of their notebooks. Uneven handwriting doesn't always mean your child will have a successful career as a doctor! Sometimes, it's just a sign that the child doesn't know how to spell some words. To avoid this kind of problem, you can try short dictations at home. For encouragement, try to use your child's favorite book. You can also ask them to read a bit of this book to you. Visual memory is often a fantastic tool for learning how to spell words, and it's less boring than memorization.
No matter how busy parents may be, children are their most important project. Therefore it is essential that children receive enough attention and help, especially with school. If they have problems, help them in time, motivate them to keep studying, and show them it can be fun. And if your child has severe issues with memorizing, speaking, or writing, consider consulting a professional instead of relying on the internet.
About the Author:
Vivienne Bell has been a passionate writer for her entire life. Upon graduating from MIT's Department of Linguistics and Philosophy, she has found her path as a writer and editor at WritePaper. Helping others with her writing has been her life-long dream.